My mum passed in 2012 and honestly, nobody was prepared for her death. Her loss left our family shattered and I had to deal with my pain quietly and for six long years.
Being Raised By My Mum
There is a huge age bracket between my siblings and me, so that meant that at some point growing up, it became just my mother and I left at home. Everyone else was either studying at the university or had begun a life of their own.
Just The Two of Us
Grieving
Reading Saved My Life
In January, I read Michelle Obama’s Becoming. I felt her pain when she described the experience of losing her roommate and friend Suzanne Alele to cancer at 26. Similarly, In Phil Knight’s Shoe Dog. Phil, the man who founded and built the Nike empire, shared what it meant to lose Steve Prefontaine who was a friend to Phil and a brand ambassador to Nike in its early days.
This evening, as I rounded off Gabrielle Union’s book, We are Going to Need More Wine, I started to get emotional as she described the last hours she spent with a friend who was dying from Breast cancer.
I thought, Shit! We are all going to die. It was an aha moment for me. I think that we forget that loss is ubiquitous. And that the pain of loss is the same.
Even if I’m dying, until I actually die, I am still living
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom, this is the element of freedom”-Alicia Keys*.

Olutobi
My superpower is creative engagement; whether working as regulatory affairs professional at a pharmaceutical company or as a fashion art director. Malcolm Gladwell calls people like me, "connectors".
I try to read at least a book a month, I have a green thumb (not literally) and my favourite quote ever is " remember to play after every storm".
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