The Book of Joy by the Dalai Lama and Arch Bishop Desmond Tutu explores the concept of joy. What makes a life joyful? How can we practice joy in our everyday lives?

One of the concepts discussed by both authors, is the idea of communal living and the word used in the book is Ubuntu. Ubuntu translates to mean “I am because we are”.

Technology is redefining communal living. I mean we all have friends on Instagram who have never met but  in the real world, we are still facing the problems of adulting alone.

Becoming One

The idea of togetherness really is not about becoming dependent on other people, it is about acknowledging that other people exist in your immediate environment. More importantly, it is about focusing on our shared humanity. That is, how similar we are than how different we are.

You are never actually alone. whatever the situation, you can bet that there are millions of other people in the world standing in your shoes in that very moment.

There is research to back up the claim that saying we instead of I can reduce your chances of having a stroke. I mean, can you believe that? But really, since I learned about this, I have applied it to my 9-5 where I manage a team in a pharmaceutical company. The truth is that the responsibilities can sometimes be overwhelming but now I don’t say “I have all of these things to do”, I use “we” instead. And this little change is helping me cope with work better.

All Life is Synergy

Ubuntu is the understanding that in life, synergy is important. In church today, we were reminded that fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives depends on our interactions with the people in our families and communities.

Liverpool F.C’s motto is “you will never walk alone”. It’s kind of like that line from Maya Angelou”s poem, Our Grandmothers: “I come as one, but I stand as ten thousand.”

Believe this. 


-Tobi Amokeodo